Weighing heavily on my mind....

This may be a ramble of sorts....but it is something that is weighing heavily on my  mind.  The past few years have been difficult health-wise and stress wise for me and not excluding the weight "thing" either.   Needless to say that "big number" got bigger over the course of time despite my efforts to eat less, eat cleaner and / or exercise.    

My problem is with all of the people who can just lose weight -- without thinking about it - or with minimal effort (and by minimal - little dietary changes or adding a little exercise) but that think they have all of the answers and just don't "get" the overweight thing.  You  know the ones who like to freely hand out their superior wisdom on the eating habits of  "fat people".

If it works for them it should work for everyone, right?

WRONG.

That would be like saying, eating dinner with your family every night at the dinner table will fix your family connection problems.  Or going to bed every night not fighting with your spouse will fix your marriage.  Or perhaps, knowing all of the answers for our schools just because you went to school.

The problem with being overweight is that EVERYONE sees it.  EVERYONE.   What if all of these thin people went around every day with a sign listing all of your INSECURITIES and IMPERFECTIONS and even worse, PROBLEMS written in big bold letters on their backs.

OR

And then I come up to you and give you blanket statements for fixing these issues.  How would you feel?    Again, the problem with being overweight is it is written on the outside like a giant sign in big bold letters.

So the point of this rant, next time you think to judge someone who is overweight....or give them unsolicited advice....reverse the situation.   What if your biggest problem was on a poster that you wore around every day.  Would you want that judgement?  Would you want the blanket "free advice that you've heard a million times?   Does your problem have a genetic component?  A stress component?  A health component?   If no, then back off...be supportive - not critical and stop judging.